Another Class on the Horizon!

I spend what might to some people seem like a surprising amount of time thinking about how I could impact the world and what topic I might teach in a class to help people better themselves in small ways that have a big impact.   This class is from one of those think sessions. 

"My Side of Marriage" comes out of my experience in working on myself that created great improvements in my marriage.  In this rather raw, insightful and blatantly honest class, we'll talk about how to dig up your personal issues, why perspective is a game changer, how allowing space and reaching out are both vital, and building trust and vulnerability. 

This class will run Wednesday's from January 9, 2019 - January 30 2019,  from 10:30 am-11:30 am MT.
The first week in February I will holding 1-on-1 calls with each person from the class. 

Registration will open in December!

New Class!!

I know how hard that society, for whatever reason, works to get woman to feel less than.  To feel like if they don't look like a model, and show stress like a plastic faced doll, that we aren't good enough and we sure aren't worth anything to anyone.  In one word, this is false.  Your worth and value are not negotiable with anyone, not even yourself.  It's not something you can change, or even put a price tag on.  To those around you whose lives you touch, you are invaluable, as a child of your maker, you are one of a kind, unique and priceless.  There is nothing anyone in this world can do to alter this.   As I was debating on what class to create, it kept coming to me that we aren't taking care of ourselves, mostly because we don't see our own worth.  In "I Need Me Too!" we will talk about why taking care of you is the best gift you can give those you love, how to fit self-care into your life, and ways to to recognize your own worth and value!  This online class runs for 4 weeks on Thursdays at 10am MT

  Starting October 25.  Register Here!   Early bird registration is $147 ($50 savings) and closes 1 week before class starts!

Class Opportunity!

Hello again!  I just announced last night Stress on YOUR Terms is open for Early Bird registration! 
I'm so excited to help 5 people learn to better handle their stress level in the 4 week, online class!  Classes are Tuesdays in September 1-2 Mountain time. They will be recorded if the time doesn't work for you AND you get a free 1 on 1 laser coaching session with me! The Early Bird investment point is good through August 25, 2018 and is only $147! 

Come learn how to keep your stress levels where YOU want them to be!

REGISTER HERE!

Testimonials

Here are a few testimonials!

When I started with Heather I was struggling with a physical pain in my upper back from a trauma from 4 years previous. The pain was very intense. I was seeking further help from a new chiropractor as I really wanted to work through the pain. His expertise was helping but it was still there.
Then I had the opportunity to work with Heather, I had some difficulties in my marriage that were also very painful and caused me much stress and anxiety trying to navigate through the difficulties as well as to keep myself moving forward. We discussed ways to address my stress and make choices that were suitable to help me. I continued talking about this pain that at times was unbearable. Heather devoted one session specifically for that wound. It was very beautiful as we worked through the different emotions and issues regarding the trauma and continuous pain. The final resolution came down to forgiving myself for this wound caused by a trauma I had no control over. It was profound that by forgiving myself my pain was freed. I have not had pain like that since that session and I am so grateful to finally have this pain lifted.
Heather has helped me with many different things, my personal self-care, my business, my family, my marriage, finances, and more. She helped me keep my priority on getting myself to my office and focusing on my business and accomplishing goals I was working on. I still have the list of recommendations to help me be successful where I can see them often and I look at those to help me stay focused and succeed in my goals.
I am thankful for the time I was able to spend with Heather. Her guidance was very helpful and is still helping me make the changes I need to be successful.
I also reflect on her words, “What is going well.” Such an important question that is often overlooked. Thank you Heather!        - Marquelle


"I have loved working with Heather because she has helped me discover for myself why I feel obligated to take on too much. The consequence of that was being tired and overly stressed.  By learning what the triggers were, I am able to stop myself before over committing.
Working with Heather was very comfortable.  She isn't pushy, but she does ask questions that make you dig deep.  That's where the answers lie.  They are all inside of ourselves, but we don't always know how to uncover them.  That where a good coach comes in!"   Kathie







"Heather has been my coach for over a year. She's incredible! We set a goal to get my room like the pic. It's almost there. But that's a small thing compared to what she's done for me. To heal from emotional trauma is a miracle. To have her lessen my migraines is a miracle! She's got a gift!!!"   Alisha





"When I started with Heather I was struggling with my relationship with food.  Then after I had the opportunity to work with Heather, I learned to take the judgment out of eating while still have food control.  I learned to honor my fullness, and increase my ability to eat in a balanced and moderate way.  I had food freedom!  I also learned how to anchor myself, becoming more mindful and aware of my needs.  I learned I had been neglecting some nourishing aspects of my life and how to correct that.  I am now more intentional and purposeful in all I do.  I recommend working with Heather!"   Kristin

Trust and Young People, read to then very end.

So 3 of my kids had an experience this week that had one of the reeling and closing herself off to the rest of the event.  When we talk to teens it’s a constant battle of listening and hearing and being understood more than any other conversational companions.  With just a thoughtless arrangement of words we can accidentally shut our youth down.  Now, we know that perfection 100% of the time is not even a possibility, so what I want to talk about are ways to help create trust, with youth especially.  They have so many more bombardments and trials and expectations placed on them then their parents did roughly 20 years ago.  The social media scene, overly easy access to emotionally destructive media, increased bullying, increased mental illness and suicides.  They need the adults in their lives to be trustworthy, reliable and validating.

I have 4 teenagers and have had to learn to connect with them where they are, not where I want them to be.  My best intentions were not making up for my lack of knowledge of how to allow them to feel validated, heard, loved and appreciated.   This short list of helpful ideas can get you connecting and building a better relationship with the young people in your life.


#1. When you ask your young person a question, watch their eyes.  If they look down, their response is emotional.  Just wait.  Give them time to process before you expect an answer.   This includes little young people.  If you just want them to pick A or B and they look down, be the adult and give them time. If you're patient and kind, they will answer. 

#2 When they tell you something, mirror it back to them. I'm going to give you an example. 
Mom "Hey T, how did practice go today?"
T "It was fine."
Mom"Just fine?  Tell me about it!"
T "Well I had to break up a fight between two of my teammates and then coach came over and asked me what happened and I had to go with him to talk to the two kids since I am captain."
Mom, "You had to break up a FIGHT at practice? How'd it go?"
T "Yeah, it was more annoying than anything.  A and K had been going at it so I had been watching them all practice."
Mom "It was annoying to break up the fight or that they were going at it all practice?"
T: "Both really. Coach was cool about it and told me thank you for being aware of what was going on."
Mom "Wow!"

This was an actually conversation with one of my sons.  4 months before this, I didn't have the skill or knowledge to mirror him back to be able to help him relax and know I was listening to him.   Notice I used his words back to him and I asked another question to get more information or clarify what had been said.  4 months before this I would never had found out about his night until his coach contacted me.

#3 Validate their feelings.  If they are complaining about chores, agree with them.  "Yes, I know it's not your favorite thing to do, mine either. (Hug) We will feel better if we get the job done, and maybe if we work together, we can get it done faster and then have a treat"    This kind of conversation tells them that whatever they are feeling is just fine and teaches them a way to get through the feelings and go onto accomplish the task ahead of them.  This teaches resilience. It is a life skill in desperate need of being taught!


#4 I'm going to tell you right now that this one can be really hard to own.  You HAVE to be in control of yourself.   If you're yelling, it's not them, it's you.  If you're showing up in a way that pushes them away, that's on you.  You HAVE HAVE HAVE to deal with your own garbage, history, old stories etc.  You don't yell at your kids because of their behavior, you yell at them because that's your default habit.   It's time to show up as the adult and develop your self control.


There's nothing perfect about my parenting except a moment here and there when I really get it right. Those little moments are getting more frequent.  That being said, I yelled at my kids last night.  Start implementing 1 thing, and forgive yourself when you don't get it perfect.  Just keep trying. 


I know parenting is hard and we need all the support we can get.  So I am introducing The Joys of Limitless Imperfect Parenting!  This is a 28 day intensive that grounds you in the 4 pillars of parenting.  I'll post a bit more about this later but if you want to get started, then Click here to book an appointment and go to my Facebook page and message me that you want The Joys of Limitless Imperfect Parenting introduction!   Here's to a happy, connected, loving, fun summer!!

Learning to Trust Yourself

This morning I am going to talk a bit about how to learn to trust yourself.  It starts by being able to HEAR yourself.  What???  Yep, that's what I said!  You have to be able to HEAR what your intuition is telling you.  Uh-ho.  Really?  How do I do that?  How do I hear something I don't even know what sounds like?  Something that I don't even realize is talking to me, nor do I even know how to tune into it?!?  Do I have to start talking to myself?? 




Take a deep breath, and let's walk through this.  This is a PROCESS, it takes time, effort and love.  There are literally tons of ways that you can learn to trust yourself, so I am going to give you 5 practices that you can use to learn to better hear your intuition.   Note:You don't have to do ALL of these, just find the one that works for you.

#1 Go outside barefoot and find some dirt, grass, or rocks etc, and sink your feet into it.  In your mind's eye, picture you feet growing roots that sink into the earth and connect you to Earth. What comes up?  Write about it.  Start with, "When I was grounded to the earth I felt..." and just write. Is there something you're doing that you need to change? Or something you need to start doing more often?

#2 Recognizing it for what it is.  My 16 year old daughter said that the best way she learned to listen to her gut was by trial and error to recognize it for what it was.  "When I felt really weird about someone's suggestion and choose to do something else, that weird feeling would go away and it was replaced with a specific feeling of peace."    So when you feel a bit weird about something, or it feels off, or just not good, stop and check in with yourself, listen to what that feeling is trying to tell you and make your decision based on that.  If you have time to in that moment, write about what you're feeling.  "I feel weird about ____________ because..."(keep writing).

#3 Take a small, calculated risk, like trying a new class, or different restaurant than you'd normally go to, if you tend to be on the go all the time, this could even look like just slowing down and spending intentional time relaxing. Write about how this makes you feel both before you go and after you are finished.  Be open to something new. 

#4 Write down something you want on the top of a piece of paper.  Under that ask (write) the question "What's stopping me from achieving _______________?" Then answer the question on the rest of the page.  Pick one thing out of what you wrote out to work on or change immediately. Make a plan to change it.

You've probably noticed a theme through these as you've read these.

#5 Write, write, write, with a purpose!  Write about your fears, write about your losses, write about money, write about the bad parts and the messy parts and the scary parts. When all the negative stuff is out, burn it, shred it, wad it up and throw it out!   When you're done, write what comes to mind that you want to create and have happen and note how much more brain space you have, which allows you to hear other things, like yourself.


How is this feeling? 
Does it feel a little scary? 

Do you remember that you can do hard things? 
Do you believe you can be more than you are?  I do!  I will hold that space for you and give you the support and tools you need to get passed what is holding you back from living the life you want! Let's talk!

Trust and our Higher Power

So we have hit a point where we need to talk about rebuilding trust.  The problem with this is that it takes time.  It takes patience.  Maybe it takes starting over a few times, which is scary and might hurt, again.   So how do we even begin to want to try to do let someone rebuild our trust?

We trust ourselves and our Higher Power.    You may now be thinking, I don’t believe in God. Note I never said God.  I said Higer Power.  Your Higher Power could be a mountain, the universe, God, Buddha, Ra, or Love, etc. It doesn’t matter.  Trusting something bigger than you, and knowing without a doubt that your Higher Power has your very best interest at heart opens your heart to healing and growth. 

I’m going to get a little deep here.  I fully believe and can’t deny that my intuition is linked to my trust in my Higher Power.   If I trust my intuition and my Higher Power, who has my very best interest at heart, I will know who is worth trying to trust again and who I need to bless and let go.   

What’s coming up for you right now? Are you feeling some resistance to this?  To which part are you feeling resistance?  What is it trying to tell you?  Are you needing help getting yourself in alignment passed the resistance?  Click Here and set up your discovery session today and let’s get you moving!!